The sexual life or sex household?

Perhaps this is wrong, but for me the best proof of love - when a man wants me, constantly. I need an organic feel desirable.



Once one of the female user of forums, mostly housewives, have raised the burning topic: how to renew extinguished sexual interest in her husband?

As it turned out, the topic of concern to so many women. I even got the impression recently that women began to want sex more than men.



Judging by the statements in the forums and articles in women's magazines and Internet publications, the man comes home from work the evening tired, exhausted, and he was not up to something - if only to eat, lie down on the couch watching television - and sleep.



Tried all the lotions, sovetuemye Women's Editions - the new hairstyle, plucked eyebrows, playful lingerie, erotic sms during the day - the fact remains - women hesitate to take the initiative!



What's happening?



All 10 years of marriage, I take the initiative in sex. I always had more than her husband. I'm tired to ask, require, take her. And this is despite the fact that I do not nymphomaniac, I also happen during periods of calm, but a woman with a healthy sexual appetite, of course, subject to fluctuations depending on the cycle, mood, fatigue, etc.



I understand in part, that when a police inspector, solicit, from time to time want to say: Leave me alone! But the presence of the desire to have sex for a healthy 30-year-old man - is not the norm?



Then I found a direct relationship between my husband and libido problems and stress at work. That is, when a lot of problems at work, or to what men want and that houses are not pestered with questions and generally lagging behind. Similarly, spoken of libido and other male friends.



A man appeared after her husband, was apparently very similar to it. So, he even took offense, saying - do you see in me only a sex object! I did, they say, not an animal to pounce on you even in the hallway? And what do I do if I want to be assaulted me?



And what is offensive is that I see in man a sex object? And he told me: "I must first talk, talk." During that time, until we have talks about everything and not just talk, I'm blown away and will not burn, as before.



At the forum, women discussed the many opportunities that could spur sexual desire for her man. Intimate haircut, removing all possible hair on the body, relaxing massage and bath, etc. etc.



In the midst of the choir of "Desperate Housewives" one woman shyly as she wrote: "I do not know, my husband wants me to all - in a bathrobe, in trenikah, bald or hairy legs, etc. It is strange to think what happens is, when the husband's wife does not want ... ". And somehow silent. And me and read more rashotelos. It turns out, shave - do not shave, tweeze - do not pull out - the mechanism of desire still depends on something else?



I think so, that initially was paramount, yet libido men, that is, how much sex he basically needed for good health and normal functioning. And it is very important that the libido of a pair coincide. If one is enough 1 time per week by their nature, and one need every day - such a marriage was originally destined to fail. One can only imagine the mind - notice, mind! - Head and share a lot of pluses to find a place with this man and a lot of his virtues - a kind, caring, wonderful family man who does not drink, does not smoke, wife's mother mother calls, etc. - Sooner or later you vzvoete and climb on the wall.



You can explain the attacks of irritability, PMS, magnetic storms and anything - the fact remains - women need sex as well as men, health, wellness and much more.



And at some point you will be not up to social norms and attitudes. Because, as I realized in the end, sex - is as much a natural need of the organism, like eat, drink, sleep.



Imagine that announce immoral to sleep outside the house, but at home you will not give sleep? You hang on the day, the second ... I fall asleep at work. And nothing can do about it, and the brain did not even think about the fact that you are breaking the rules of morality. You just fall asleep. And if you declare it improper to eat outside the home and the house will still not there?



Many, of course, will try to buy sandwiches and cracking them quietly at home when nobody sees. Like and do not violate, but tired of hiding.



Many women in the same way and buy a vibrator when her husband fell asleep, get secret satisfaction. Most of my friends are hidden under the bed vibrators.

In many of my friends families whose husbands gave their wives - that is typical on March 8 - vibrators. And only 1 couple chose and bought a vibrator together for sexual games. How to understand such a gift? Man seems to be saying a woman - amuse herself?



The more I lived in a marriage, the more convinced that the quality and deeply satisfying either sex - one of the most important conditions for a happy marriage. If in this sense, all is well, about everything else can be negotiated. Do not get me wrong, I do not take any extreme positions - for example, completely different social levels, different faith and philosophy, etc. And I do not take the situation where nothing but sexual attraction, does not keep people together, or they were married in his youth, for example, to be able to legally have sex.



When people are good together - they will try to agree to any other areas. In this sense, of course, we come with age to the fact that the mind in sexual attraction still plays a role. And for the emergence of desire is necessary to have been involved and the desire of the mind and the desire of the soul, but not exclusively attracted the body. And, of course, to enhance his libido must still connect the brain.



Think that would stir up such an interesting and how to arrange everything?



And, of course, everything turns out cool, if you like are on the same wavelength - Catch the wishes and feelings of another. Catch happens when you tune into people and sincerely want to do it well. I still very helpful method - do as you want them to do unto you - works perfectly.



But on the other hand, give priority to the mind - also not good. The lack of balance and bias it toward something one - body, mind or soul - also leads to distortion in the relationship. A man who used to life at the top of the mind to put lives on the mind and all analyzes, - respectively, all his sexual desires are subject to analysis. And we go back to the fact that the libido is extremely dependent on problems at work.

Frankly, I think that all the oligarchs - the steep businessmen and various analysts are not active sexual partners, because their brain is constantly packed with deals, stock quotes, dollar collapse, the Dow Jones, etc. This is my personal theory, no matter what do not pretend, but for myself I think that it would be good that the man was closer to nature, чтоли, with healthy instinktamit.



I met the man of my dreams. We have been together for 5 years - we really do not live together, we have no general way of life, but we communicate very closely every day.



I desire for it either - with or without epilation, the makeup or without it, sleepy, cheerful, patient, tear-stained ... In my presence he is not looking at other women. They are not there for him - he did not take his eyes off me. I fall asleep with his "good night, my love" and wake up with "good morning, desirable.



Perhaps it is not right - measure the ratio of men to their degree of its desirability. I do not know how to. But it is important. This gives me confidence in her feminine attractiveness. The need to feel like a woman for me - how to breathe.



Expressed my thoughts, of course, not new. Psychologist Nekrasov wrote, that the initial impetus must come from men and the woman he picks up and creates a space of love. And that requires a balanced functioning of the Trinity - Eros, mind and soul.

I was deprived of this impulse. Maybe not felt it, and not words. I do not know. But harmony was not.



Of course, now is the place to be some sort of imbalance - women have become more active and aggressive. And this man's features. Accordingly, the man becomes feminine traits, and as a consequence, what is beginning to behave like a woman - sculpts otmazy that headache, mike and capricious.



Probably I should command a smaller man in life, so he stretched his wings ...